Marriage – Part Eight
So how healthy is your marriage relationship? Did you forgive after reading yesterday’s blog? Did you set yourself free?
I have had the privilege of marrying many couples. Several of those couples have written their own vows and it is always sweeter because it is so personal. There are many traditional marriage vows and most imply we should hold to each other because we have to, not because we want to. I do believe we would all recognize that most people do not respond well to have to. Have to is based in obligation. Obligation means we owe someone something.
I really do not want to owe someone. I never want to spend time with someone out of obligation. I certainly do not want to love out of obligation. I have learned that resentment stems from obligation. I never want to resent the person with whom I have chosen to spend my life. Shelli and I are together because we want to be. We have been through too much to feel obligated. Obligation went out the door many years ago between us. We simply love and enjoy our time together.
I do not love my Lord out of duty or obligation! I love Him because of ALL that he has done and continues to do in my life. What about you today; do you love your spouse out of some duty or obligation or do you love because you have chosen to love him/her? Do you love Jesus Christ because of what He has done and is doing in your life today?
Throw out that “obligation” and “choose” to love today. Love is pure. Love is always good. Love is of God. Love should be expressed!
Don’t try to love today; Choose to love today!