Pastor A

Would you like to know how you can have a better spouse?

Make a list of everything you like/love about your spouse. Be very specific. Then tell your spouse one of the things on the list every day.

Make another list that describes the perfect spouse you would like to have. Become that list. When you become the kind of spouse you would like to have, you will have the kind of spouse you want.

Here are some suggestions:

• Leave your spouse little notes saying how much you love him/her and why.
• Find ways to laugh together.
• Hug more. Gripe less.
• Scope up. Let pettiness go. So the top is off the toothpaste – let is slide.
• Treat your spouse with the same dignity and respect you would a stranger.
• Do the unexpected. Keep the element of surprise alive.

Do something crazy! Some time ago I was leaving to go on a mission trip. Shelli hates it when I leave… even if it is only for a couple days. We were packed up in the car and she was ready to take me to the airport. I said, “Wait a minute.” I ran back inside and took a tube of brand new lipstick. I wrote a cute note in great big letters on the bathroom mirror. I then drew a big heart right where Shelli stands to get ready in the morning. Every day when Shelli was getting ready, there was  a visible reminder that I love her.

In fact, it took weeks for her to ever clean the mirror because it meant so much to her. Do something crazy! She didn’t even get upset that I ruined a brand new tube of lipstick.

Don’t try to become a better spouse; DO become a better spouse – start today.